Let’s get straight to the point…
Feeling stuck, trapped and imprisoned by your circumstances are (more often than not) built and exacerbated by your own fears and doubts.
It’s quite possible that if you’ve grown up in an unhealthy environment—and those limited and depressed feelings may have been imposed on you. Until you’re ready, you’ve had no way of knowing different or better.
Nonetheless, one thing’s for sure…
You’re here now…reading this article.
Will you continue to read it with an open mind for something different?
Are you willing to let some of the ideas digest with you?
Better yet…are you willing to actually give them a try?
Do you want something different? Something better?
There are options and possibilities when you’re willing to step outside of the arbitrary feelings you’ve attached (or were taught to attach) to your circumstances.
Feelings are feelings—coming from you and working through you—creating a world defined by you. This is your belief system…your mindset.
If you want to experience an improved feeling and an improved experience…
If you want to break free from the feelings of imprisonment…
Perhaps it’s time to reframe your thought process and create a new belief system and experience something new and improved.
Are you ready? Read on…
1. Trust In Your Story and Surrender
How often are you managing, manipulating, forcing an agenda, and controlling everything around you? Are you telling your story (or any story) the way you think people want to know it fearing they might not like the real you? By doing so much, you’ve not given space for your authentic you to shine and by default less stressed feelings, too.
Surrendering can give you the ability to reframe your mind almost immediately. Switch how you see your own story from any past experience and circumstances from happening to you and consider why it’s happened for you. What did it teach you?
Having trouble finding the good in it? Then try this exercise. Give yourself the time and space to consider what you don’t like about your experience. Make a list of everything you hate about your story and your experience. Get it all out and write it down. Then immediately turn around and think about the extreme opposite of everything on that list. Write it down. By surrendering to “what is” and giving it space, you’ve also created a list of the things you want (which is the opposite of the things you don’t like). These are the qualities and experiences you can work toward. Your past experience(s) taught you exactly why you do.
2. Reduce and Redecorate
Remove everything around your living space that simply doesn’t serve you anymore. Trash it or donate it and let someone else enjoy it. Remember that whatever is happening around you is also happening within you. If clutter surrounds you, then clarity and opportunity can not makes it way through for you either. Many times, when you’re feeling stuck it’s a sign that you’re ready for something new. You don’t have to know what the “new” is exactly, but you can inspire new experiences by clearing your space and even redecorating.
If you can swing a fresh coat of paint to freshen up your space (that’s an excellent start),
but redecorating doesn’t have to be expensive. It’s more important that you refresh your space and therefore it’s energy. Consider re-arranging furniture, or switching up the artwork from one room to another.
Is it too much to look at your whole home and living space? Then start with a corner of one room and make it a special space just for you and move on to tip #3…
3. Routinely Nurture Yourself
Practice a daily ritual of “me time” without distraction. If you can, make it the same time every day (early morning is usually best). Keep your journal handy to review your list of things you want. Journal your positive experiences as you practice these tips. Read a book on personal development, meditate or practice positive affirmations. A daily routine of nurturing yourself sets the foundation and energetic inner strength and momentum for you to stay the course for the long-term.
Most important, know that passively going through life will never get you where you want to go. If you continue to play the blame game and continually point to others as the cause of your circumstances, then you’ve given the responsibility of your life to others, too.
Commit to better living and take action (even if initially it’s a small action…it’s action toward what you want and your energy is focused on solutions). Doesn’t that feel better already? It’s empowering to take responsibility for your life. It’s empowering to know that you have the ability to change your story at any time.
Finally, don’t be fooled into thinking it’ll be smooth sailing. Life is life and it has ups and downs. The choice to stay down, however, is yours. Learn to love what the hurt has taught you and let it help you unlock your potential, your talents, and your passions because of it.