I understand that’s a pretty ballsy title and I’ll do my best to not make you feel cheated or tricked after reading this. Okay. Deep breath. Here we go...
After coaching thousands of people, digesting hundreds of self betterment recordings and blogs, and going through my own personal trials and tribulations, I’ve learned that the key to life comes down to this one thing...
Your ability to be “happy” with whatever you have or whatever you’re going through in your current situation.
Alright, hold on to all your butts for a second. First, I understand happy is subjective which is why I put quotes around it. So whatever happy means for you. For me, it’s a state, a condition, an authentic connection to self that is built on trust which creates a feeling of wholeness.
To simplify, let’s just use the word positive. The ability to be positive in your current situation. Not just positive thinking. A positive state. It may start with positive thoughts but a positive state is a state of being that is multidimensional and includes energy and vibrations. A frequency we live on.
Most people do not live on this frequency. Or maybe they can for a second, an hour, or a day, but then they snap back into their negative default, their knee jerk, whatever their story and world has programmed into their subconscious.
We also have ancient brains easily triggered into fight or flight to save us from prehistoric animals who could end our lives with one swipe of their claws. But today, we don’t encounter those type of beasts in our daily living but our brain still reacts as if we did. Our claws today are relationship problems, money issues, not knowing what we want to do with our lives, what other people think about us. Suddenly, we’re running. Not up a tree. Away from ourselves. In behavior, it’s anything we do to numb ourselves.
What we’re really doing is disconnecting with ourselves and this disconnection is where suffering lives.
So the key then, is to learn to be “happy” or more accurately re-connect with our true self, spirit, soul, authenticity and hold on to it as long as we can. Emphasis on the word “learn” because it is a progress that requires much effort and revelations from our life experiences. But simply put, this constant running toward ourselves instead of away is where happy and positive is found. When we posses the ability to do this, we live on a more powerful plane or frequency. Our potency goes up. We attract healthier people and better things. This sets us up for better experiences. Experiences are convincing. These experiences slowly change our belief system. And pulling from a different belief system is how our lives change.
It takes very little to have a happy life.
Everything you believe you desire to make you “happy” has been formed from the external. The more you connect to you, the more these blueprints fade.
The key to life?
To your true self.
As long as you can.
Until what you believe you need to make you happy
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ABOUT THE COACH
John Kim pioneered online life-coaching six years ago with The Angry Therapist, which has a committed, passionate following of clients & coaches. He's the co-founder of SHFT, a company devoted to self-betterment and wellness for all. Connect with John on FACEBOOK.