Do people say you are a “go-getter?” You’re great at taking action. Hesitation isn’t your thing. You’re the one determined to do what you want, no matter what.
But is the truth that you charge ahead, all the while ignoring the tiny warning sound of your inner senses?
I know this sometimes works. But it depends upon what you mean by “works”. If you get beat up in the process. Whether there is collateral damage. If your trampled heart is lying on the ground in pieces. Because you may have accomplished what you set your mind to, but your spirit feels a bit queasy afterwards.
It comes down to having your actions in line with what you need to take care of yourself. And in harmony with life’s flow.
When you proceed anyway, in spite of what you know inside, you are overriding. Overriding your natural inclinations is a familiar dynamic to most of us. Whether it is something as simple as eating food you know your body doesn’t like or a complex situation you shy away from addressing, overriding takes you away from your natural path.
What does overriding mean?
Override: to make (something) no longer valid; to have more importance or influence than (something); to ride over or across (Trample); to prevail over (Dominate); to set aside (Annul)
What if You Were to Pay Attention?
Overriding internal signals is learned behavior, developed first in response to the way you expect your environment to be relative to how you are actually received. By default, a baby expects her needs to be met, to be fed when hungry and nurtured as needed. It is simply how it is. But in an unwelcoming environment, that baby learns that her needs are not important. The adult grimly wears the gray dress because she’s been told that’s the right thing to do, though her favorite green one hangs right next to it. She proceeds to turn her back on her inner environment. She shuts the door to choice.
Did you feel like your needs were important? Were your choices recognized?
Over time these behaviors become the patterns that regulate the flow of your own self-expression. They get locked into your belief system and into your way of living.
The result? You sacrifice who you are and what you truly need.
How do Children Know What They Need?
Two-year-old Isaac was his usual engaging, joyful self throughout his Grandpop’s birthday party. As the soft, soon-to-be-end-of-summer evening moved towards his bedtime, his two middle fingers found their way into his mouth, signaling his quieting down time. Then, in the midst of adult conversation and laughter, his voice came clearly: “Home. Go.”
Isaac knows what he needs. He is genius at stating his needs and seeing to it that they are known by his caretakers. It’s what two-year-olds are supposed to do: declare themselves. He has no way to override his needs.
He hasn’t yet learned to ignore himself in order to be acceptable to the outside world.
Are You Leaving Yourself Out?
Here’s the thing. Ignoring your inner communication fractures your forward movement.
You act without regard for the truth of yourself and others, pushing to meet some behavioral criteria. You leave yourself out of the equation when you give way to outside judgment. You lose trust in yourself. Your inner guidance becomes difficult to discern.
How to Build a Sense of Trust:
Here are 3 things you can do to turn this around.
1. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR BODY’S SIGNALS.
As you pay attention to the signals your body provides, you build a sense of self-ownership. Is your stomach clenched as you move into action? Are you joyfully leaping forward? Your body gives you continual feedback about your true desire.
2. THE PAUSE THAT CONNECTS.
Taking a few breaths gives you time to settle into your innate desires before leaping into action. If your pattern is to give way to another, this is especially important. As you grant yourself the gift to pause before acting, self-denial gives way to true self-regard and self-worth. Your future—all that is to come to you and all that you are to create—demands that you listen to yourself.
3. REMEMBER THAT INNER GUIDANCE IS AVAILABLE TO YOU.
Inner guidance is appropriate. In other words, your own best self will not ignore the world around you. You are part of every situation. And you are not alone. Your deepest self knows how to balance your needs, the needs of the situation and that of others. So that truth in the highest good is served.
Listen to your inner communication as you take action in life. This creates a purity of energy in action. You bring everything into the equation: you have regard for the situation at hand, feel the truth of what is needed and stand with yourself.
This is integrity of heart in action.
You are so ready for this, aren’t you?
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Bestselling author, Illuminator and Master Teacher, Laurie Seymour, M.A., is dedicated to showing you how to reliably connect with your energetic inner wisdom, dissolving self-doubt. Because once you have this inner connection firmly anchored, you’ll have the confidence and direction to manifest your big-picture vision. Laurie founded The Baca Journey to help illuminate your journey. As Turaya Grand Master, Laurie teaches Turaya Touch and Turaya Meditation online and around the world.
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