By John Stuckenschneider
Every one of us, if we’re completely honest with ourselves, carries with us the feeling that we could have done more with our lives than we have up to this point. We all believe on some level that, if we’d just made a few different choices, or approached events in our lives differently, that our lives would be completely different, probably for the better.
I’d like to submit a few thoughts to you concerning that feeling that you have. You are absolutely right to believe that, had you done things differently, your life would probably be in a completely different place right now. That’s a different place and not necessarily a better place.
I submit that each one of us are exactly where we are supposed to be at this moment in our lives and that absolutely everything we’ve experienced, both what we refer to as the good as well as the bad, has been the very best for us as concerning our own personal journey of development. Please read that again because I know that it’s, for many, a very hard pill to swallow.
All of life is growth and growth just cannot happen unless there are challenges that are faced and come through. Many times those challenges in life that have shaped the person that we are were far from anything that we’d ever wish for anyone, let alone ourselves. Yet, even though they were not pleasant experiences, I must encourage you to view them as I have learned to view them in my own life: necessary. I am who I am, and you are now who you have become, because of the challenges and growth of life.
Now, on to the real thought behind my article today.
Studies have been done and interviews conducted with those who have come to what many would consider the final years of their lives and the answers to the questions asked about their life’s experiences are very illuminating to those of us who are still involved in the growing experience we would refer to as the middle of our lives. One question asked of those in retirement facilities and the like is especially compelling and thought provoking for me.
The question? “What is the most overwhelming feeling or emotion that you feel concerning your life and accomplishments up to this point?”
The most common response from those interviewed?
And, when asked for a deeper explanation of their answer, the further response was one that has the power to change the lives of all hearing it, if we will only listen and apply the lesson to our own lives.
The overwhelming majority of those interviewed stated that, when looking over the course of events that had become their lives, it was NOT the times that they attempted something and FAILED that they most regretted. Not the times that they felt that they should do something, then stepped out and gave it their best shot, and it didn’t work out as expected. Those were NOT the times they regretted.
Those interviewed said that the source of the strong feelings of regret that they just could not get away from were from the times that they felt the strong pull to do something and they didn’t even try...
The times of their lives that caused them to feel the very strongest sense of regret were those when they knew in their soul that they should step out and take a chance on something and they either talked themselves out of going for it or they allowed themselves to be talked out of even trying what they felt that they should be doing...
Those times that they felt that they SHOULD do something and didn’t were what haunted them with the strongest feelings of regret. It was NOT the times that they DID TRY, even in those instances where they tried and FAILED...
My friend and mentor Les Brown refers to this as “Dying with the music still in them.”
As evidenced by the interviews, “regret” is the most painful of the end of life emotions. I would submit to you that, if we feel a strong desire to step out and do something with our lives and we do not act on that desire, we not only "rob” ourselves of that experience and the results of taking action on our dream. We also stifle any effect of our taking that action and following our dream on the rest of humanity.
If you have a desire to do something with your life that absolutely will not leave you alone, persistently will not let go of your thoughts, I would like for you to consider that this is your own higher self, compelling you to your higher destiny and purpose.
Please do not allow the fear and uncertainty of stepping out of your comfort zone to stop you from listening to this inner guidance. Remember, if this were something that were already within your comfort zone and “easy” for you, there would be absolutely nothing extraordinary about it, nor would this be something that kept you up at night, compelling you to take action.
Avoid the “regret” of never heeding the call and step out. Even if things don’t work out as you “see” them at this point, the doors that will open and opportunities that will become visible to you from taking action on this are those you’ll never experience unless you take this first step.
Listening to, and acting on, the internal voice of our higher self is what allows us to live our life by universal design rather than living a life of merely reacting.
Hear that voice. Act on it. And begin to experience the power of a life of no regrets, TODAY.
John Stuckenschneider is a successful motivational speaker, best selling author, seminar leader, trainer and certified Life Success© coach. Think Into Success©, LLC, was founded by John dedicated to providing the very best in personal development resources, seminars, and programs.
Mentored and certified by Bob Proctor, of the movie "The Secret", as one of Bob's Life Success© Consultants, John has been personally mentored by Les Brown, Brian Tracy, Brendon Burchard, Rich Schefren, James Malinchak, Mike Koenigs and others.
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