By Gina Sendef
Blocks can be created in our lives by holding onto anger, frustration, irritation, jealousy, resentment or any other negative feeling or emotions about a person, group of people or situation. This negativity can, in part, prevent us from having optimal health, harmonious relationships, our desired career, financial abundance and just about anything prosperous we want to create in our lives.
Conscious awareness of the energy our emotional states can create is a vital part of self-care. Having a practice that is ongoing releases negative energy, like stress or anger, is incredibly valuable for our overall well-being. A great thing to add to your spiritual practice, as part of your consistent self-care regimen, is the continual practice of forgiveness. A forgiveness ritual can help guide you through the process of letting go, healing and moving forward in positive ways; it will change your life for the better.
It's important to understand this process is not about traditional views of forgiveness; you won't be contacting people who hurt you and making declarations of bygones (unless you want to). It does not mean that you must condone the hurtful actions of another, it simply means that you are aware of the need to release your toxic feelings and that you are willing to release them; you are doing this for your own well-being (it is an act of self-love). Holding onto to negativity diminishes your ability to see abundance in all things; no matter what you create, the built up negativity will affect your ability to find joy in it.
Everyone is holding onto some negative energy that, if left unchecked, will build over time and become an impediment in some way. The only person truly hurt by not forgiving is YOU, but make no mistake; everyone else in your life is affected (including our family, friends, children and animals). Having a forgiveness healing ceremony or ritual will allow you to release these negative energy blocks and, over time, you will begin to forgive more and more easily without holding onto energy that can be harmful. The only thing required is your desire to be free from the pain, anxiety, stress and discomfort that gets created from this negative energy cycle. From hurtful situations to daily irritations; the energy can compound without a conscious process for letting it go. That's why a ritual is so helpful; it's a step by step guide to letting go.
I have used the forgiveness ritual below for years and shared it with hundreds of clients. Feel free to follow it exactly or tweak it to suit your needs. When your first start, you might feel the need to do this daily or a few times a week. After a while, you won't need it as often, but do not allow yourself to stop using it because you think all is well. I highly recommend continuing with this ritual on an ongoing basis and have given some insight for follow up at the end of it; print it out and use it with the intention for love and healing:
Get comfortable in a quiet room, preferably dimly lit with a pen and pad of paper. You can add to the peaceful ambience with soft music, a candle, diffusing essential oils, a sal lamp, healing crystals or anything else you like. Ask your angels and guides to be with you to help with this process; they are your celestial guidance team that cal help you determine what you need to release. You need to surrender the process to your team and your higher-self; following the guidance of your intuition completely. You are going to be writing names on a list; the first name will be yours because forgiving yourself is the most important. Next, ask your angels and guides to help you discover any other names or situations that need to be on the list and DO NOT censor yourself (you may be surprised who ends up on your list). Allow memories to flow and if you are struggling with considering a release for a particular individual or situation, ask yourself“haven't I suffered and/or learned enough from this?” and be willing to let it go.
Once you feel you have the names needed on your list at this time, you will do a forgiveness healing ritual for each one. For each name or situation that is on your list, you will individually say the following intention to your angels:
I am willing to release all negative feelings and emotions related to this person/situation; including myself for the role I played in it. I ask that my angels take this negativity to the light and leave me with the lessons and love. I ask that Archangel Michael please cut any unhealthy attachments to this situation/person. I ask that Archangel Raphael help heal my heart and soul as I choose to forgive in all directions of time.
It is important to do each one separately. If there is a person or situation that you do not want to forgive, you should move onto the next one and come back to that one with a different method. For anybody/situation that you are finding difficult to forgive, you must write an anger release letter to them. This letter is for your eyes only and is used for the purpose of release. Simply write every single negative feeling and toxic emotion that is taking up space in your soul; this is the time to literally let it rip and say everything angry, vile thing that you have been feeling on that paper. Once the letter is complete, refer to the intention stated above.
Once all your list and letter(s) are done, you will destroy them (burn, shred, bury, etc…); whatever method feels best. You can end your ritual with a detox bath or shower to further release toxins using sea salt (a scrub or bath salts). While in the bath or shower, ask your angels to surround you with pink light so that you can give and receive the love of others and yourself. The purpose of this entire ritual is to leave us with the love, the highest energy of all. Love is aligned with abundance, joy and peace; without loving yourself first you cannot attract it into your life (that is why your name is first on the list to forgive).
Forgiveness now needs to be a habit; if we are alive we need to forgive. The full moon presents an amazing opportunity to release every month because the energy and purpose of the full moon is related to releasing what no longer serves us. You can use the forgiveness healing ritual every month (it will flow more quickly after the initial one) to release negative emotions from even the most minor irritations that occur throughout the month. Try to forgive in the moment when daily frustrations occur, but also put those names on your full moon forgiveness list to completely release. You can keep a forgiveness list on your smart phone to keep track, than use it for the forgiveness ritual during the full moon. Archangel Haniel works with the moon’s energy, call on her for help with releasing during the full moon cycle.
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About The Writer
Gina Sendef is an independent Spiritual Self-Help Author, Reiki Master Teacher and Angel Intuitive. Writing is her life long passion. Her first book, Truth Works: Divine Life Lessons for Kids of All Ages, is a self-help book geared towards older children, teens and young adults. The premise for Truth Works is to undo harmful affects that exist when our children are taught traditional life lessons like "life is not fair" or "money is the root of all evil". The goal of the book is to undo this negative programming at a young age, ensuring the subconscious belief system for our children is optimistic, safe and secure. She also created Angel Works as a means to provide energy healing and mentoring and to work with the positive and loving energy of the angels to offer guidance. Through Angel Reiki and Angel Readings, Gina gives people divine counsel and healing that will improve their health, uncover their life's purpose, enrich their relationships and enhance their lives.
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