A new year brings with it much hope and a greater attunement to our heart’s desires. Maybe it’s because there were things that didn’t come to pass in the prior year or maybe we’ve just held out for so long until we hit a tipping point where we think—it’s my time now. Regardless of the reason, manifesting your desires can sound super fun when you’re setting your intentions, however, once you’ve set them, a whole slew of interesting distractions and resistance comes to pass, attempting to push you backward.
When this happens, we can tend to spin out of control. We either surrender to the resistance and inevitably get stuck or we swing too far in the other direction, we go into massive, crazy action that burns us out and lands us where? In the land of inertia. How do we tell if we’re forcing or supporting our desires and truly moving toward them? Let’s figure this out.
1. Massive action is great for your intentions, forcing massive action is not
Let’s say you really want to start a new business this year. Maybe you’ve had a creative endeavor going on the side on a part time basis. How exciting to take it to the next level, right? So, you start taking massive action and by this, I mean, you’re staying up later, you’re hustling on the weekend, any opportunity you get to work on your business, you’re taking it. You get this nudge, a still small little voice inside of you that tells you to slow down and think things out. You blow right past that small little voice rationalizing that it doesn’t know and understand that you have to take massive action. A friend then asks you to come out and enjoy a quick break and a bite to eat, but you feel like you have to write that blog post, or you have to work on that layout, or you have to put that finishing touch on whatever it is that you’re creating. You kindly decline your friend’s request because you’re committed. Meanwhile, that still small voice is starting to scream at you to slow down. Stop. Take a look. Just like when an unwanted call comes in on your cell phone, you’re hitting ignore. This goes on for a few days, maybe a few weeks and then… you get sick. Really sick. Unable to get out of bed you’re so sick. As you lay there in bed, you’re weighing all that work you did opposed to the results you got. You come to the disappointing realization that it’s one big fat goose egg. All that work you did didn’t really move the needle. That’s what forcing your outcome does. It can make you crazy, running around like a mad woman competing with a tyrannical version of your very self and leave you feeling burnt out and frustrated.
2. Forcing is driven by fear and lack, not from love and abundance
When we’re forcing something to happen, it’s likely coming from a place of fear, lack, or doubt. There’s a part of us that thinks that it isn’t possible or that we don’t have enough or are enough to accomplish it. Instead of listening to our intuition, we look outside of ourselves whether it’s to a book, a course, a program, a teacher, a mentor, a colleague, a boss, a spouse or a trusted friend. While each and every one of these people or things may have excellent advice for you, you are the only one that truly knows if it’s the right action to take. If you ignore your intuition and trust more in what someone else tells you to do instead of the nudge you’re getting, it’s highly probable you’re trying to force something to happen. You’re not trusting the outcome. You’re not trusting in yourself or your belief to get yourself there. It’s so important to have confidence in your ability to create your outcome. I’m not saying to ignore the important people in your life or valued mentors or professionals, I’m suggesting you take their information, match it up to your intuition and take action or don’t take action from that space. This prevents mishaps, getting stuck and burning out from taking too many actions at once that don’t serve you or your desired outcome.
3. Supporting action feels congruent to you
Here’s the good news. When you are taking a supporting action toward your intention or desired outcome, it feels really good. You may feel peaceful, excited, centered, grounded, confident, happy to name a few. Supported action comes from a space of feeling inspired or motivated from an inner drive that’s centered in love, not in fear. I want to make that point really clear. If it’s an inner drive that’s connected with fear, meaning you think you have to do something or else, that’s not a supporting action. Supported action comes with enlightened choice. By that, I mean that you understand the energy associated with it. Supported action will actually make you feel better, not like you have to do 60 things in 20 seconds. Supported action will move you forward at a pace that’s healthy and attainable for you. Supported action comes from a space of allowing—allowing a certain level of unfolding. This can require faith and belief. Sometimes you don’t see how it will pan out, but that nudge is there and it’s unmistakable and you have to take that leap. And the minute you decide to do it, you feel this rush of alignment, like you made the right choice and you’re feeling amazingly supported. Support that comes from the beauty in you and the wonder of the Universe!
As the days become weeks and the weeks become months, make sure to keep connecting inward. It’s so important that you’re understanding your inner guidance system as this will help you to get into that juicy alignment with supporting actions rather than fear based, forced actions. And here’s one last quick hint. If you start saying “I should do this,” or “I have to do that,” take heed, forcing action is lurking and trying to move you forward. Conversely, if you say, “I want to do this,” or “I get to do that,” congratulations, you’ve just tapped into supportive action and it’s a fun place to live!
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Jessica Nevins is the Success Stylist a Transformation & Business Coach for Heart-Centered Entrepreneurial Women, a Motivational Speaker and Author passionate about success, uplevels, business, transformation, divine life missions, and heart-centered living that uses over a decade of leadership, coaching, personal development, teaching, business development and training paired with her unique teachings to illuminate the path to uplevel your life and business, cultivate transformation and receive true abundance for her clients. Facebook