By Megan Walrod
A few months ago I announced that I was taking a trip to Flinders Island this January. I was so excited about the adventure that I invited women to join me there for a Writing Retreat.
The Retreat launch generated 5-figures. (Yay!) However, women signed up to work with me virtually rather than joining me on the island.
I could have made myself wrong for this and judged the retreat idea or myself. But I didn’t. I know that things don’t always look or turn out like I think they will. My “job” is to show up, live my YES and receive it ALL.
And while this is really hard to admit, I confess: after awhile I was relieved that nobody said YES to joining me on the island. This meant that I didn’t have to go.
But… what?? That doesn’t make any sense! Or does it?
When I first received the invitation to go to Flinders I felt the energy of YES! The invite seemed to meet my request for a BIG ADVENTURE. But something about going to the island didn’t feel like a full YES. What is this? I wondered. Is it such a big invite that I’m having a hard time receiving it?
I was trying to figure out why it wasn’t a full yes. That isn’t the way to access insight. So I indulged in my NO for a few days by claiming to myself: “I’m NOT going to Flinders.”
In exploring my NO I discovered I was relieved about not going. I felt more space and lightness. I felt released from any personal or social pressure to follow through on this plan because I had announced publicly that I was going.
Ultimately, I realized it wasn’t a full YES. Not for any specific reasons that I can point to. It’s simply and powerfully an energy, a knowing.
So I’m not going to Flinders this month.
I celebrate that I was willing to explore my YES with this possibility. I mean, damn! I invited women to travel to the other side of the world to spend 10 days with me on an island. Now that’s bold. And I received new clients from this experience.
I’ve gained so much more awareness about my Yes and my No through this situation, too: if it’s not a FULL YES, it’s not a full yes. My WANTING it to be one won’t make it so.
As one of my friend’s says, “If it’s not a ‘Fuck Yes,’ it’s a ‘No.’”
I’m not surprised that I got “worked” in this way with my own Yes/No inner GPS this past couple months. It was the same time I committed to creating programs in 2016 dedicated to supporting women in Living Their Yes. The Universe certainly has a grand sense of humor.
Thank you for all the ways you celebrated me when I announced the Flinders adventure. I’ve had quite the adventure already without even setting foot on the island.
So my big takeaways from this experience that I share with you:
Rather than judging yourself when a launch has different results than you thought it would, receive what shows up and learn from it!
When you’re not sure if you’re a YES or a NO to something, try the “indulging” tool: take 1 hour or 1+ day(s) to indulge in your NO and then that same amount of time indulging in your YES to a situation. This taps you into a lot of more awareness than trying to figure it out in your head.
If it’s not a FULL YES, it’s a NO.
I’m in support of you living your lit up full-bodied YES in 2016 and beyond!
You deserve to Live Your Yes!
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About the coach and living your "yes"...
Megan Walrod, Founder of Live Your Yes, LLC, is a copywriting coach, speaker and #1 bestselling author. Over the past decade she has supported hundreds of entrepreneurs to create authentic and lucrative marketing materials. Megan encourages her clients to “Live Your Yes,” knowing that when we live an inspired life, we are more magnetic and create greater success for everyone.
If you get tripped up with knowing what’s YES for you, or you get in your own way with choosing your YES because of people-pleasing or not feeling like you deserve it, connect with Megan on Facebook. Find out more about Megan and sign up for her ebook here: http://www.meganwalrod.com